The "Negative" Side Of Life Has a Purpose.

                        

I was sitting around pondering how we talk about balance and harmony in our lives and that perfection is not what we should be seeking but yet (and I have been guilty of this myself) we tell ourselves and others to not have any negative thoughts or avoid negative people. While I will acknowledge that keeping these experiences down to a minimum is desirable, if we are truly living they cannot and should not be avoided.

I have come to realize that those things we call "negative" actually have a place and a purpose in our lives. We live in a world full of dichotomies: up/down; left/right; happy/sad, and positive/negative. And if we are truly living in harmony and balance, both the positive and negative are part of the whole. What I have come to learn is really important, and that is to embrace it all for it all is part of life. And of course this quote just happened to show up in my email today:

"Someone once asked Norman Vincent Peale, 'Don't you think life would be better if we had fewer problems?' Peale said, 'I'll be happy to take you to Woodlawn Cemetery, because the only people I know who don't have any problems are dead.' The point is we can't avoid problems, so we might as well expect them and embrace them as opportunities to learn and grow." ~ Mac Anderson, author, Charging the Human Battery http://www.macanderson.com/

So truly, we should not be seeking a life with no problems, challenges and/or negative experiences for they also help us on our path. We should not however dwell in that space but rather learn from all our experiences and move onward and upward.

In her book, The Dark Side of the Light Chasers, Debbie Ford makes the truly valid point for acknowledging and embracing the "dark" side of ourselves because we all have it. Some call it our shadow side and while we do not want that dark side to be at the forefront of who we are, it does in fact serve a purpose, if for no other reason than to remind us of who we truly are and what we want to show the world. http://www.debbieford.com/

Negative things happen to us all but if we look at them as another way to learn and grow as Mac Anderson suggested, then are they truly "negative"? I say no, for anything that helps us with our growth must be positive.

So, allow yourself to experience those so called "negative" events. Just recognize what they are and how they can help us. Do not dwell in that space but do not ignore it either for it is part and parcel of who we are as humans. And especially we need not feel guilty or ashamed if we have negative thoughts about anything. We do however, want to acknowledge those thoughts and discover why we are having them. What do we need to work on? How can we learn and grow from them?

I am blessed to have you read my blog and I truly hope I have provided you with some food for thought. Please share your comments, thoughts and suggestions.

May you be blessed always and in all ways!

Harry

 Author - Rare Sense, One Day It Will be Common: A Practical Guide to a Fulfilled and Balanced Life
harry@harryshade.com
http://www.harryshade.com/

I SEE YOU!

I SEE YOU! 

While I know that those words have been spoken before, they have taken on a new meaning and perhaps even more importance ever since they were uttered on the big screen in Avatar and I was reminded how powerful those words are when I watched the movie again here recently.

I SEE YOU!

It is those things that we see as different that separates us and thus can cause conflict. I know one way we can resolve our issues and that is to approach each other from the basic level that we all share together and that is as human beings. If we simply start and end there, then nothing else will really matter.

I SEE YOU! 

For me, when I look at another person, I see no race, creed, nationality, religion or sex, rather simply another human being.

I SEE YOU!

By taking that approach to life, we can heal this world and it's conflicts. We will no longer tolerate any human being starving to death, being tortured or denied the basic necessities of life.

I SEE YOU!

By truly seeing each other we will naturally progress to live in peace and harmony with each other and the world around us. Which means it will no longer be acceptable to treat our home, Mother Earth, with the disdain and disrespect that we do.

I SEE YOU!

What do these words mean to you? Do you see me? To me, it means the end of separation, fear, war, hunger and pain and the dawning of a new world of love, peace, joy, harmony and prosperity for all!

I SEE YOU!

May you be blessed always and in all ways!

Love and light,

Harry

How to evaluate a situation or decision.

I had a friend of mine contact me the other day, asking me what to do when you have made a bad decision. I decided to put my response in my blog in the hopes that it will help others.

First of all, get out of the mind set that it was a "bad" decision. It simply was a decision that you made at the time that seemed to be the way to go. No decision is bad if you learned something from it. The beautiful thing is we have the power to choose something different if something is not working.

Do not give away that power by retreating into negative thought. You made a decision, simple as that and now you have the opportunity to either choose something different or make something positive out of your current situation.

Now, here is my 5 Step System to evaluate anything:

Step 1: Sit and make a list of all the pros and cons of the various options. As well as your thoughts and feelings about each. Write down anything that comes to mind and notice if any of these feelings are coming from fear and/or doubt. While doing this ask yourself, "Why am I feeling this way?" Write down your responses.

Step 2: Review the list. Make any additions/corrections as needed.

Step 3: Set the list aside and take some time to ponder it, you know meditate, go into silence, etc; ask the universe and see what guidance you get. This helps to get the emotions out of it. Sometimes when we are too emotional about something, we either block or ignore our inner knowing because of the "noise" or "chatter" caused by the emotional reaction to the situation.

Step 4: Put the list away and do not think on it for at least a day.

Step 5: Go back to the list and repeat Steps 2 and 3 and then see what guidance you get. Then go with your natural "gut" or intuitive feeling. Fear and doubt have a way of keeping us stagnant. They also release the feelings of "I made a bad decision" or "I am not good enough". Simply do not go there but rather seek guidance from that inner knowing. It will never let you down.

Thank you for reading my blog today. I hope I was able to impart some useful information. Please feel free to comment or share things that work for you. I look forward to your input.

May you be blessed always and in all ways!

Harry
www.raresenseunlimited.com