What are you attracting into your life?

I spoke with someone who called the other day and wanted to run something past me. She was continuing to have some issues with a friend of hers. This friend was constantly correcting her in a very negative fashion. She had tried over a very lengthy time to ask the other party to not be so mean spirited about her "constructive criticism", to no avail. She even went as far as to try and remove this person from her life but always seemed to draw this person into her life.

I listened to the story and as compassionate I was about her situation (I had heard passionate complaints from this person about the very same situation on other occasions.) I just had to ask some very direct questions:

"Why do keep drawing this person back into your life?"

"Why do you feel the need to have her in your life?"

"What about you feels the need to be criticized in such a negative way?"

"Why do you need to have someone tell you your not right or good enough, etc?"

"Why can't you let her go?"

You see, we attract everything to us, be they people, places, things and/or experiences. We do this through our thoughts both conscious and unconscious. We do it because there is a lesson that we need to learn, a choice we need to make or they have attracted us into their life. Yes, others attract us into their lives for the very same reasons. I have said many times that we are both student and teacher.

Where most people have a problem with what I am saying is this makes them responsible for what is going on in their lives. If you can get past the "hurt" of the ego and look at your life objectively, you cannot help but see that what I am saying is the truth. Now, if you are not "learning" anything and you keep attracting the same things into your life, then quite frankly, you are choosing to not learn. Everything we do has choices and consequences attached to them.

After a few minutes of conversing and she providing answers to my questions, she said she wanted to cut ties with this person but felt guilty about it. I then asked:

"Why do you not think that cutting ties with this person is not an act of love?"

There was an "aha" moment right there. I could feel it and hear it in her voice.

You see we also let fear control how we look at things. Fear, guilt, anxiety, hate, prejudices, etc, all can cloud our thinking and judgement. Here is a situation where one person is in emotional pain and is so concerned with the guilt they will feel for getting away from the pain, that they would rather endure the pain. Sound familiar? Unfortunately, too many of us are too familiar with it. Getting yourself out of a detrimental relationship is not selfish, it is self preservation.

Is that not an act of love? Not only is it an act of love, it is for both parties. If you release someone from your life and thank them for their friendship, lesson, experiences whatever they have provided to you and if you can see how you have been good for each other but the time is now to part from one another, then it is an act of love, pure and simple. And no you do not have to verbally express these things to the other party just be grateful in your heart and release them or release the pain or whatever you need to release.

Today I leave you with this quote: "Bad times have a value. These are occasions a good learner would not miss." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

That's all for today!

May you be blessed always and in all ways!

Harry

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